One of the biggest wedding day decisions couples face is whether or not to have a first look. If you’re unfamiliar, a first look is when the couple sees each other privately before the ceremony—often captured beautifully by your photographer.

It’s a modern alternative to the tradition of waiting to see each other until walking down the aisle. But is it right for you?

Let’s break down the pros, cons, and key considerations so you can make a choice that fits your day.

What Is a First Look?

A first look is a planned moment before the ceremony where the couple sees each other for the first time, just the two of you (and usually your photographer + videographer quietly nearby). It’s intimate, emotional, and often a highlight of the day.

Pros of Doing a First Look

1. More Time Together

You spend more of the day with your partner, not just the ceremony and reception. You’ll calm nerves and soak in the moment together.

2. Smoother Timeline

First looks allow for photos before the ceremony, which can free up your cocktail hour so you can actually enjoy it with your guests.

3. Better Lighting for Photos

Depending on your ceremony time, shooting earlier in the day can mean softer, more flattering light for portraits.

4. Private, Emotional Moment

If you’re worried about crying or being overwhelmed, a first look gives you space to react genuinely without 100+ eyes on you.

Reasons You Might Skip It

1. You Love the Tradition

There’s something undeniably magical about locking eyes down the aisle for the first time. If that moment is sacred to you, honor it.

2. You Want That Big Reveal

Some couples dream of that “aisle reveal” moment with all your loved ones watching—and that’s valid!

3. Tight Morning Schedule

If your getting-ready time is limited or the day starts very early, a first look might add stress rather than ease it.

What to Consider Before Deciding

• Are you easily anxious or emotional?
  A first look can be a calming way to ground yourself.
• What’s your timeline like?
  If you’re hoping to do all your photos before the ceremony and not miss cocktail hour, a first look is key.
• Do you want more candid, emotional photos?
  A first look gives your photographer space and time to capture raw reactions.
• What’s your venue lighting?
  Winter weddings or late ceremonies may not allow for natural light after dark.

Pro Tip from a Planner

If you’re unsure, ask your planner or photographer to build two sample timelines—one with a first look, one without. Seeing how the day flows can often make the decision much clearer.

Final Thoughts

Should you have a first look at your wedding? There’s truly no right or wrong choice when it comes a first look—it’s about what matters most to you as a couple. Whether you share a quiet moment together beforehand or save the surprise for the aisle, the key is being intentional with your choice.

And remember: no matter when you see each other, the emotions will be real, the love will be big, and the moment will be unforgettable.

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